Jessica Vestal is shedding new light on what led to her and Harry Jowsey’s breakup in the weeks after Perfect Match wrapped.

The Love Is Blind season 6 alum dished on her and Jowsey’s relationship on the July 10 episode of The Viall Files podcast as she reflected on how her then-boyfriend’s dynamic with Rylee Arnold — his partner on Dancing with the Stars, which began filming weeks after Perfect Match — led to their demise.

Vestal, 29, said that the “last straw” for her was that Jowsey, 27, was “making commitments to me that he was gonna kinda lighten the load” with how much he and Arnold, 19, teased their chemistry on social media.

“I was understanding of our relationship having to be a secret for a while, but I’m like, it’s kind of excruciating watching the world think you’re in love with someone else,” she said.

Their breakup was “very, very abrupt,” Vestal added, as she recalled visiting him in L.A. while he was on DWTS. “I was just like, I can’t do this anymore. Like, I’m not doing this. And we broke up the next day and didn’t talk.”

Hours later, videos circulated on social media of Jowsey and Arnold leaving a Tate McRae concert and as they navigated the busy crowds, they held each other’s hands. Vestal said they “broke up that morning.”

“Oh, I was so mad,” she said of how she felt after seeing the video. “I mean, I was mad. I was sad, but I was just like, whatever.”

Speaking to how she felt after their breakup, Vestal said she was really “hurt” and then had to watch Jowsey “have the time of his life” on DWTS, which was “really painful.”

“It really hurt me, and it seemed like he couldn’t have cared less,” she admitted.

Prior to the breakup – which came after they were together for about a month and a half following Perfect Match – Vestal said she and Jowsey had “a lot of open conversations” about how to navigate him being on DWTS, a show where chemistry between the pro dancers and the celebrities tends to be a hot-button issue.

They talked about “him just keeping it respectful and the intimate piece of there needing to be chemistry between [him] and [his] partner,” she said, adding, “I was so fine with that. I’m such a huge fan of that show. Like, I could not have been more excited.”

She also clarified that she’s not sure if Arnold was ever aware of her and Jowsey’s relationship, and made it clear that none of what led to the breakup was “on his partner at all.”

“She may have not even known that he was in a relationship,” she said of Arnold, who was just “doing her job.”

During his run on DWTS, Jowsey told PEOPLE that he found the speculation about whether he and Arnold – who was only 18 at the time – were an item to be “a little bit unfair” given it was the dancer’s first-ever season on the show.

“She’s so green to this whole world and everyone having an opinion, and stuff like that,” he said. “And it is week three, we’re trying our best to focus on the dance, and whatever happens, happens. We’re just enjoying being together.”

Perfect Match season 2 is now streaming on Netflix.